so i asked Andy a very simple question, a dangerous question but really a very simple question, I asked him if he thought that i was still as pretty with short hair as i had been with long hair. i wanted him to lie. i really did not want to know what he honestly thought about my shorter hair. i honestly didnt. i wanted to him (and expected him) to say "jessica of course ur still as pretty with short hair as u are with long hair. it doesnt matter how long ur hair is" he didnt. and his answer, was the wrong answer.

andy's going to say when he reads this, that if i didnt want his honest opinion why did i ask him. the answer (and this applies to everyone reading and taking notes) that many times ppl ask u questions (by ppl i mean women and speciafically women that u are dating) and they do not want to hear the truth they want to hear something that will make themselves feel better, a much softer and kindler watered-down version of "the truth," which really means a lie. bc really theres nothing i can do now but wait until my hair grows back to how long it was and that will take me about 2-3yrs. Now 2-3yrs is a looong time to not like the way ur hair looks, and i know i chopped off my hair for a good cause and that i need to get over it, but u dont live with my hair, i do, so dont try telling me that. but thats not the point of this story, the point of the story is that there is a right answer and a wrong answer to dangerous questions, u need to pause (but not for too long a time) and think about what it is that they want to hear, and then u need to say that in the best possible way. now someone with some skills can completly turn the conversation and avoid the question all together, although i do not think that there are many ppl out there with those kind of skills.

now if all of y'all are real smart, u will leave comments telling me how i am still pretty even though my hair is short.